Every successful person has a great deal of confidence or faith in his/her ability to achieve the goal at hand. Having confidence doesn’t mean you present yourself as being cocky, but rather that you express yourself with a great deal of absurdness and confidence.
Having self-confidence is not only a positive feature and quality to have in life; it also enables us to not be susceptible to our fears and doubts and to be certain in our decision making. Most people have a fear of failure and rejection, and at times this can affect their self-confidence. These are natural human emotions that are sometimes tough habits to break. The trick is to act in spite of them, which is something we all get better at over time.
When working in a team environment, you can always tell who people with high levels of self-confidence are, as they have an infectious aura of positivity and optimism that is easy to be around. The are natural leaders and they inspire others to be better, which is why people are drawn to them. Confidence is believing in your ability and knowing you have the talent to back it. It is understanding and accepting your strengths and weaknesses in any situation.
“Self-confidence is the most attractive quality a person can have.
How can anyone see how great you are if you can’t see it yourself?”
– Unknown –
Having self-confidence allows you to give your team confidence, and those people will give it back to you – boosting your sense of self-worth and creating a sustainable loop of positive social energy.
Long-term self-confidence is a logical assessment of your abilities rather than a charged-up emotional feeling. You just know you have a certain value. You raise that by having real accomplishments and strengths and by getting enough feedback from the outside world that you know you’re on the right track.
My takeaway for this week:
1. Stop comparing yourself to others and focus on improving yourself in every aspect of your life. Challenge that critical inner voice that constantly nags you and fills your head with destructive thoughts and most importantly, don’t believe everything that you think.
These thoughts don’t define you.
2. Set small goals. Break a goal into steps, and you are more likely to succeed. Small successes fuel big changes in your self-confidence.
3. Write a list of your strengths and what you are good at. Concentrate on those, not what society, your team mates, family and friends think is best.
4. Self confidence can be a bit like something in a department store that has had it’s price cut and is on sale. Maybe in recent times you have marked yourself down or, worse still, let other people mark you down. Value yourself more and you will not only be a stronger asset to your team mates, but also in your personal relationships as well.
5. Here is a complimentary copy of my self confidence chapter in audio. Please click the following link. https://www.dropbox.com/s/ohvu4xhgqnsz0my/Chapter%209%20-%20Believe%20You%20Can%2C%20and%20You%E2%80%99re%20Halfway%20There.mp3?dl=0